Heal Your Inner Child and Find Your True Purpose

Your unhealed childhood wounds silently influence every decision you make today. That recurring pattern in your relationships? Those inexplicable emotional reactions? The career choices that somehow never feel quite right? They're all connected to your inner child.

In this deeply personal exploration, I reveal how our past traumas—whether seemingly minor or profoundly significant—create invisible barriers to discovering our true purpose and achieving authentic success. Through eight powerful healing techniques, I guide you on a journey to recognize, acknowledge, and ultimately transform these wounds into wisdom.

The healing path begins with recognition—creating space to identify those childhood experiences that hurt you most. I share my own vulnerability, explaining how family dynamics during my childhood created patterns that occasionally cause me to "snap" in ways that mirror behaviors I witnessed growing up. This pattern recognition becomes the foundation for understanding ourselves and breaking harmful cycles that limit our potential.

From writing letters to your inner child to practicing specialized meditation techniques that help you visualize trauma as waves you can ride without drowning, each strategy offers practical ways to process pain while remaining balanced. I explain how journaling from your childhood perspective creates a unique healing opportunity and why reconnecting with childhood joys—whether through games, creative activities, or favorite pastimes—reawakens authentic parts of yourself that trauma may have suppressed.

Healing isn't about erasing your past but integrating these experiences into your identity in a healthy way. When you heal foundational aspects of yourself, you create space for clarity about who you truly are and what you genuinely want from life. This alignment between your healed self and your goals forms the cornerstone of meaningful success—not just in achievements, but in creating a life where your past empowers rather than sabotages your present.

Share your inner child healing journey with me on Substack. What small step will you take today to bring healing and joy back into your life?

Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Inner Child Healing
• 12:30 Recognizing Trauma and Its Impact
• 14:35 Writing and Meditation Techniques
• 17:45 Journaling and Rediscovering Joy
• 17:49 First Steps: Recognize and Listen
• 23:11 Final Steps and Expert Support
• 25:00 Why Healing Matters for Success

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

What are, guys, the eight tips for healing your inner child and why it is so important to heal your inner child, to discover your purpose you know, your goals and success in life. Hi guys, my name is Fabio from Journey to Success, and welcome. I assure you I'm not crazy. I know that a few episodes ago, we discussed how to rediscover your childhood dreams. Okay, but it's something different. This topic is a little bit different. So today we're gonna be focused on how to heal your inner child so that you can find yourself again and, consequently, reach your dreams, while the previous episode was more about rediscovering your childhood dreams. Anyway, before to go forward, as always, please subscribe. Okay, so I know this is the right direction to lead you guys, to drive you, to guide you towards your journey to success, and let's get started right, as always. So today I, for some reason, I don't know how to pronounce childhood, child, child, childhood dreams, finally, anyway, let's start. Let's start.

Speaker 1: 1:24

Okay, we all have a trauma, guys, and this trauma, believe it or not, influences our decisions, both directly and indirectly. Okay, so, from my experience, some of your trauma can actually help you move forward and make you stronger. Help you move forward and make you stronger. So it is somehow. It can become somehow a positive thing, because it becomes a part of who you are, and, for sure, this is absolutely a positive thing to consider, okay. However, even if most of the wounds have healed and have contributed to your strength, there is always a chance that they still bleed a little bit right. So it's important to acknowledge this and ensure that we can heal as much as we can, and by embracing our experiences and the lessons learned, we can become a better version of ourselves. So the solution here is not to hide the pain or the trauma, but to understand how to deal with the bleeding part, and to assist with that, we have eight tips that can surely help you through the process. So let's start.

Speaker 1: 2:44

The first tip is recognize your inner child. This is the first step to healing your wounds. So reflect on the experiences that have hurt you the most. Okay, you need to remember them. So it's essential to open the metaphorical vase or closet where you have stored all your trauma and identify which ones you have not yet forgiven or healed. Bring to the table any experiences, any sad experience, traumasas or difficult situations you have faced, and approach this process in a methodic way rather than in an irrational or extremely emotional way. I know this is hard, but you are protected and safe where you are right now. Okay, so you can do that. And, to help you with this exercise, find also a relaxing and a joyful place. Okay, maybe near the sea or in a small rented house in the mountains, I don't know. So this was the first step.

Speaker 1: 4:00

The second step is pay attention to the message from your inner child. So when you finally open the metaphorical base, you literally have your inner child starting to talk to you. You know all the anger from needs you unfortunately never met feeling of abandonment or rejection, insecurity, vulnerability, guilt, shame and sight and so on. You know so it's essential to reflect on feeling of abandonment or rejection, insecurity, vulnerability, guilt, shame and so on. You know so it's essential to reflect on all your experiences and also it's important to trace these events in a way to help you to understand that your actions may sometimes arise from past traumas. I'm going to make an example from my side. I have a good relationship with my family, but I won't lie to you, it was sometimes hard in our home when I was a child, there was a lot of frustration related to work, related to life in general money which often create tension as well and, as a result, that frustration occasionally affected my family and they redirected that frustration towards me and, of course, this situation has had an impact on my life. Generally, I'm a calm person. I'm calm and I consider myself a kind person who never wants to fight, and I know life is not as long as people think and if I have to choose between my peace and anger or conflict, I will absolutely choose peace, guys, okay. However, when I find myself in a situation where someone truly disappoints me or makes me feel extremely angry, I can snap. I can really snap, and I recognized this pattern from my family during my childhood okay, pattern from my family during my childhood okay. So pay attention to what happened in the past is essential, because this is the only way to truly understand and recognize certain behaviors that can be spiritually and emotionally harmful to yourself and those around you. Okay, Remember that.

Speaker 1: 6:23

Number three write a letter. Exactly, you know you have spread all your traumas out on the table. You reflected on them. Now it's time to write a letter. Start with something like how do you feel today? So it is a letter to your inner child. So how do you feel today? Let's talk about your past and see how I can help. I know this person hurt you. I know this situation broke you and I want to comfort you. You are with me now in a safe space, so don't be afraid. Let's explore together what to learn. You know something like that. So this part is very important because it allows you to connect with your inner self, your inner child. All right, so make sure to calm and protect that part of you, while also explaining how you can learn from your past traumas.

Speaker 1: 7:23

Number four meditation can be very helpful. So meditation can be very helpful. If the wounds are too open and the trauma is still present in a significant way, meditation can be a great solution. There is a beautiful meditation that you can practice for about 10 minutes. There is a beautiful meditation that you can practice for about 10 minutes, and I wasn't someone who typically used meditation with headphones or music, but now I understand it helps me get into the flow faster, so you can do as well, if you like it or not. It's up to your preference, of course. And for this meditation, if you like it, you can use apps like brainfm or check out youtube or spotify. You know, focusing on music with a frequency range between 432 and 528 hertz.

Speaker 1: 8:19

The technique is this one. So, first step sit quietly, find, of course, a calm position and close your eyes, all right, and breathe naturally. Number second visualize the waves of the ocean as your strangles. So see the waves as all your challenges, emotions and traumas, you know, rising under you. But instead of being swallowed by it, you're still on top of the sea, all right. Number three ride the wave. So when the wave rises, you feel the energy of those struggles lifting you because you start to think about it. You start to think about past traumas, past emotions, and when this energy tries to lift you up, it's going to show, of course, all the impactful emotions from when you were a child, when something happened to you. But here is the thing Instead of resisting, you have to stay balanced, you have to stay calm, you have to breathe steadily, you have to make sure that the wave goes down, and then, in fact, we have. The number four is the gentle drop. So, as the wave falls, imagine yourself gently calming down and returning to a state of calm and safety. And each time the wave goes down, shows that no strangle lasts forever.

Speaker 1: 10:02

Okay, and number five. So the fifth point is, of course, the repetition. So continue with each wave. Sometimes, these waves, they go up. You think about it, you think about the problem, but then you have to stay calm, you have to imagine to, you know, to literally put down these waves. And that's how it is the life in the end of the story Problems come and go, but you remain the rider, never the storm itself. Number five so this is the fifth tip. So let's go back to our topic, to our topic to heal your inner child. So number five back in time and journal as your inner child.

Speaker 1: 11:58

This is a wonderful, interesting exercise, because usually journaling focuses on reflecting on the present or the future, right. However, in this case, you need to go back in time. It's like you go back in time and write from the perspective of the same age you were when the trauma happened. For example, you might write John was mocked me today and all the children laugh at me. I don't know what to do. Fortunately, I'm here in the kitchen with mom waiting for the pancakes. This makes me feel safe. But what can I learn from what happened today with John? Something like that. Of course, it is an example. And the point is, as you reflect, consider what you could learn from this experience. Right From this past experience, you can finally investigate what exactly happened and explore how to move forward from this point, learning a valuable lesson, of course, and the exercise is very, very fascinating because it allows us to reflect on our past from a present perspective, while also incorporating the maturity and knowledge we have gained over the years. Okay, so it's very, very powerful.

Speaker 1: 13:21

Number six bring back the joys of childhood. We previously discussed this in the episode title Rediscovering your Childhood Dreams. It was two or three episodes ago. To heal, it's essential to find joy in the things that once made you happy, guys. For example personal example I used to enjoy toys and now I'm considering exploring a new passion. Like Lego, I used to play video games on PlayStation 1. And now I'm a proper video gamer. I loved Dragon Ball when I was a child. Back then I didn't even realize it was an anime, you know. Now all the people know about anime from Netflix and anyway, now I watch some anime and have started reading manga because I know that makes me happy. Unfortunately, my free time has become increasingly limited these days with my podcast work, sub-stack, social media. You know, preparing a product for my project, I barely finish an anime these days, even if I'm willing to take more rest in the future, of course.

Speaker 1: 14:36

But the point is, it's important to heal from your past and present strangles, including those you are currently facing. All right, and one way is by revisiting your past joys. So don't feel ashamed to look back at what brought you happiness, no matter your age, guys, remember that taking time to reconnect with past joy, whether as a hobby or to bring a smile to your life, is always beneficial and can help in your healing. Okay, number seven leave the door open. So the bigger the trauma, the longer it takes to heal. Sometimes it doesn't matter how long the healing will take. It may even take a lifetime. You know. The truth is that trauma and past experiences that have hurt you, of course, can also serve as inspiration, lessons, guidance for your present and for your future, for your journey to success. They are part of yourself, guys, whether you believe it or not. All right, so please don't rush to close the door on them, as they contribute to your identity and personal growth. Okay, remember the learning opportunities that arise from your trauma are very, very powerful.

Speaker 1: 15:57

Number eight consulting an expert. You may have various healing methods right now, okay. Okay, but if your trauma is not, let's say, a gentle ghost, but feels more like a demon, deeply you know, rooted in your mind and your soul, impacting your life in a negative way, then it's essential to seek help from an expert, not just any general therapist guys. It's crucial to find a qualified professional who specializes in the specific type of trauma you are experiencing. Okay, do careful research to ensure you find the right fit for your needs and you're going to be great. And, of course, this step is crucial, okay, so find the right guy for you. So, before we finish this episode, let's wrap everything up carefully.

Speaker 1: 16:58

Healing your inner child is not a superficial process. Okay. It's profound, it's important, it's deep and it's one of the most crucial steps you can take if you truly want to discover your purpose, align with your goals and achieve genuine success in your life. Okay, because the truth is that if you carry wounds without addressing them, those wounds will silently influence your choices. The truth is that if you carry wounds without addressing them, those wounds will silently influence your choices, your relationships and the way you see yourself. But when you begin to heal, you create space for freedom, for clarity and self-trust. Okay, now let's review the eight steps, the eight tips, one more time, breaking them down so you can remember and apply them to your own life.

Speaker 1: 17:51

Okay, number one recognize your inner child. This is where the journey starts. All right, so you cannot heal something you refuse to acknowledge first of all. So you have to go back in time, revisiting your past and noticing the experiences that shaped you. Maybe it was neglect, maybe rejection, maybe feeling invisible, I don't know. Whatever, take time to identify those memories and accept that your younger self still lives inside you. All right. Right, healing starts with understanding. Remember that.

Speaker 1: 18:25

Number two pay attention to the messages. Once you open the door, your inner child, you know he, she speaks to you. All right, they speak to you. It may manifest as anger, sadness, shame or even recurring patterns in your reaction to stress today. So ask yourself why do I overreact in certain situations, for example, why do I shut down in others? These are signals, guys, so you have to understand them. They're not random, okay. They are patterns from your past, from something that happened in your past. So they are the voice of your inner child asking to be heard and understood.

Speaker 1: 19:09

Number three write a letter. Writing is powerful because it creates a bridge between your adult self and your inner child. So when you write, you acknowledge the pain but also bring comfort. You have to say things like I know you were hurt, I know you felt alone, but I'm here now. I'm here with you and you're safe. You know something like that. Writing allows you to begin a conversation, showing compassion to the parts of yourself that were missed.

Speaker 1: 19:43

Number four practice meditation. Meditation helps you regulate your emotions when the memories feels overwhelming. Okay, the wave meditation is literally one of my favorites one and we talk about. It is a great tool. So you, you visualize your strangles as waves while you stay steady and balanced on top. Okay, and this teaches your mind and body that you are not your trauma. You are the observer, you are safe and you can stay present even when emotions feel heavy.

Speaker 1: 20:20

Number five again journal as your younger self. This is different from writing a letter. Instead of writing to your inner child, you write as your inner child. So imagine you're back at the age when the would happen. Okay, write down what happened, how you felt, what you needed and what you wish someone had told you. So this exercise enables you to reconnect with raw emotions, you know, with the wisdom you now possess and giving you, of course, the closer and the understanding.

Speaker 1: 20:53

Number six bring back childhood joys. Healing, guys, is not all about pain, it's also about joy. So think back to what made you light up as a child maybe drawing, maybe playing outside, building Legos, you know, watching cartoons, reading comics. When you bring those joys back into your adult life, you reconnect with parts of yourself that are pure and authentic and this joy heals because it reminds you that you are more than your trauma. Right, you also carry light. You carry creativity and playfulness inside you.

Speaker 1: 21:34

Number seven leave the door open. Healing is not instant. It is a lifelong process. Some wounds close quickly, other takes years and some way always stay with you in some way. That's okay. The point is not to erase the past, but to learn from it. Your trauma is part of your identity, part of your story, part of who you are and sometimes even a part of your strength. So keep the door open. Let's healing grow at its own speed, okay, so don't rush it. Number eight consult an expert. Finally, if your trauma feels too heavy, too dark or too overwhelming, you don't have to carry it alone A qualified therapist, coach, consultant, you know can help you process your experiences in a safe and structured way. This is not weakness, it's wisdom, because getting help means you are serious about healing and about becoming, of course, the best version of yourself.

Speaker 1: 22:35

Now, why is all of this important? What is the reason for dedicating time to this task? Because when you heal your inner child, you stop living in reaction to the past, you stop letting pain control your present and your future, so you start making decisions based on clarity instead of fear, so you begin to understand your purpose. All right, you align with your true goals, finally, and that alignment is the foundation of real success. So success is not just about money, status or achievements. It is about wellness. It's about building a life where your past does not sabotage your present. It is about becoming the person who has the strength, the peace and the clarity to walk towards your dream, of course in a confident way. So healing your inner child, guys, is not the end of the journey. It is the beginning, because once you take these steps, you are no longer trapped by old wounds. All right, you are free. You are free to write a new story, a story of purpose, growth and, of course, a story of success.

Speaker 1: 23:48

Now I want to hear from you how do you connect with your inner child? What is one small step you take or want to take to bring healing and joy back into your life? Send me a message, share your story. Connect with me on subzack. I would truly love to hear how you are walking this journey and if today's episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe so you never miss what's coming next. And, even more important, share this episode with someone who might need a gentle reminder that healing is possible and that their past does not define their future. Okay, thank you so much for being here and joining to success. Remember, healing your inner child is not just about looking back. It's about moving forward with strength, purpose and clarity. All right. Together, we're building not only success guides, but wellness. I hope you remember that. I'll see you in the next episode. Cheers.